I remember a Multiply post by a newly-married church friend who wrote that there were moments each day that he would wake up to enjoy the sunlight shining on his wife's face and thank God for providing him with such a wonderful lady. I share his sentiments.

It's indeed been a blessing to enjoy every waking moment with my dear wife Sue. We cherish the precious moments each morning when we walk along the canal to work; and before we reach home each evening we would already be exchanging sweet messages expressing how much we long to see each other.

Well, we're only entering the third month of married life but it already feels like we've been married for a lifetime. The stresses of learning to live with a new person have definitely been quite an experience for us; coupled with settling the remnants of house renovation work as well as coping with everyday concerns such as housework. And there are the times that we have carved out to spend with our families; which we have had to balance with the precious moments that we spend in youth ministry. I can only say that it's been God's grace that has carried us through.

It's my prayer that as we continue to journey through life walking hand in hand, that we would continue to keep our focus on the One who has been good to us all this while; that when the time comes for us to present an account of our lives to Him, that He would count us both as faithful servants; co-labourers in His kingdom of love and grace.

I've suddenly become a "sort-of-an-expert" on renovation work; now I know the difference between homogenous and ceramic tiles, between laminate and parquet flooring, between solid and granite surfaces... the list goes on... It has also become somewhat of an interest to observe the way mosaic is laid out in public places, as well as to assess how a feature wall can accentuate the aesthetics of a room...

Yes, the renovation bug has hit in; not least because we will soon begin renovation works for our new house. Nothing too major - just hacking off the old toilets completely, adding a new kitchen cabinet top, laminating the floor of our bedrooms, adding a laminate platform for our balcony, re-wiring and re-plumbing the entire house, and giving the place a new coat of paint. Still, Sue and I have become "somewhat-of-an-expert" in the renovation process, no thanks to our sourcing of at least five different quotations from the numerous home renivation companies. We are thankful that we finally managed to decide on one company last week, and will soon begin the process of choosing materials for our place.

Things have been on the acceleration for us over the last couple of weeks; I'm thankful that my new job has been wonderful :) I realise that I love teaching - not least because the young people under my care are so much like the youths in church. It has been three teaching weeks so far, and I feel I have largely done a good job; most challenging to keep my students engaged during the after-lunch sessions from 1-3pm, but the sessions have been nonetheless fun. I'm also continually surprised by students who take the initiative to play Youtube videos and perform skits during their presentations, and that without the need for me to instruct them on this.

Sue reminded me today that we have less than two months to our wedding. It still hasn't sunk in yet that within the blinking of an eye, December will pass and both of us will embark on our married life together. What I am reminded to do, however, is to prepare myself for the upcoming transition that will change my life forever. And I know nothing better than to ask the God of my life for His guidance through it all.

Over the past few mornings I have been awakened by what I have termed as the "Seven Dwarves Symphony" - a chorus of shouts accompanied by the loud pounding noises one hears when large items are thrown on the ground in rapid succession....

Yes. Upgrading has come to my block. And my turn will be next week. In the meantime, I am being treated to a foretaste of what is to come - from the housing contractors who seem to enjoy throwing the upgrading fittings onto the concrete floor just outside my room, resulting in the series of noises which have roused me to my senses each morning.

In the midst of all the upcoming renovations, Sue and I have surprised ourselves by buying a new HDB flat. It was just two weeks ago that we decided to wait until a more appropriate time. However, just days after that decision was made, God provided us with a beautiful apartment unit, and we made the move to quickly secure the place.

Our new dwelling place is ideal for the following reasons:

1) It is a 5-room flat, and the apartment will be more suitable for us in the future when we finally have children of our own. It also has a large living room space which we hope to function as an area for future ministry use.

2) The apartment is located conveniently in Clementi, in-between both our work places, and is situated next to a scenic canal. It is also located next to a running track, a children's playground, and other recreational facilities.

3) The apartment was reasonably-priced and is in an almost move-in condition. Most of the fittings are still in a reasonable condition and we foresee not having to carry out major renovation work.

4) All our parents and close friends like the apartment.

In Singapore today, buying a home is one of the most significant challenges faced by most newly-married couples. Sue and I truly feel that we've been blessed immeasurable by God in this aspect - that the whole process has been almost obstacle-free for us. Indeed this purchase has been a future-oriented one, and we can imagine ourselves bringing up our children in the new place; taking them for long walks along the canal, and teaching them how to cycle, rollerblade etc...

We can also imagine our new home being used for ministry purposes; just as my current home was used to host my weekly cell group. It is our desire that the new apartment will be consecrated for God's use in whatever way that He desires to use it. He has blessed us with so much, and it is only appropriate that all that we have be used for His glory. It is hoped that this will be a metaphor for our lives as well - that the both of us, together with our future family, will be completely consecrated for His use according to His perfect will :)

When I learnt I was going to sit in for this year's National Day Rally speech, one of the first things that Sue asked me to do was to pay special attention to any new announcements on housing - that given the recent surge in the property market prices. As a matter of fact, property was one of the items mentioned in the speech; although it did not affect us as much as we had hoped for it to.

To put things in perspective, Sue and I took part in the recent HDB balloting exercise for 4-room and 5-room flats in mature estates. Although we already have a 3-room flat, we were however thinking ahead and preparing for the arrival of our children, when the time comes for that to materialise. Together with another couple from church, we had been eagerly anticipating the release of the balloting results, for the 354 flats that have been released. We finally received the results yesterday, only to learn that of the 10,200 people who had applied, our queue number was 6,071 i.e. we would only be able to get our flat if 6,070 people reject the flats.

In all honesty, although we knew that it was very difficult to get an apartment in this manner, we were definitely disappointed. A flurry of sms messages were sent to each other through the day, and when we finally met last night, we came to the conclusion that we might have to look through the Classifieds and search for a place on the open market.

Amidst all the searching, I was reminded of the current upgrading work that my flat will be undergoing soon. One side episode was the sudden appearance of a head outside my kitchen window this morning before work. "Uncle... Need to remove the metal clothes rack. Can or not?" I was rather startled, although thankful to be in a modest state of decency. Upon discussion with the foreign worker, who was with one other man suspended inside a gondola outside the window, I learnt that some of my furnishings had to be removed for the upgrading works to proceed. I only agreed after discussing with his foreman, a well-spoken gentleman who was obviously intrigued by the incident "Your house the only one with this rack. We see how - if can we'll return to you after taking it out."

Considering all the major upgrading works that will be conducted soon, and the preparations for our upcoming marriage, we finally decided to hold off the search for a new place until another time. Both of us had gone to God to inquire about this matter, and we were both of the opinion that this period might not be the best time to buy a new place. All in good timing; all in His timing.

I can understand now why couples are so busy preparing for their marriage. For starters there's the wedding preparations - drawing up the guest list, booking the church and dinner locations, choosing a bridal studio and going for the photoshoot, finalising the helper list, meeting the wedding coordinators, drawing up the actual day wedding schedule, deciding on the folral decorations, the list goes on...

Besides that, many couples are also tied down with the other physical preparations - such as deciding where to live after the wedding; and if they decide to live on their own, they would then need to buy an apartment and renovate the new home. 

I'm thankful that for us, this process has been simplified somewhat. We're indeed very blessed that there's no need to look for a new home, as I'm already living in an apartment which I call my own. What's however important is that when Sue moves in, for the place to be "ours" and not only "mine". Hence the need for renovations so that the apartment can be shaped by both our personalities. And since my flat will conveniently also go through upgrading, it makes sense to take advantage of the situation and concurrently renovate the apartment.

We've therefore been spending much of our time together seeking out items for our place. A very enjoyable experience overall as both of us enjoy beautiful things and it's been quite fun choosing lovely things that we both know we'll enjoy - like the delicate Thai silk which we bought during our recent trip to Bangkok (featured in the photo above and which will be used to make curtains), the lovely maroon-coloured bed linen at 70% off (thanks to the Great Singapore Sale), and our latest acquistion - a comfy King Coil mattress and bed frame set... 

We know there're many more things that we'll need to purchase together - like a new dining room set, toilet sinks, a desk for the study room etc; but so far we're happy with all our purchases. I think the main reason why this is so is because we've both learnt to consider what each other likes - and to accommodate each other every time we make a decision. In many ways this is representative of the marriage life, during which we know we'll have to make many decisions together. It's not merely the humourous view of marriage that depicts the husband as the head of the house and the wife as the neck that turns him around; rather it's more that both husband and wife share joint responsibility of the household and that all decisions are made in mutual agreement. It's truly a high calling for the husband to be the head of the household, and this is a position that is only tenable if he is under the authority of God.

Truly marriage preparation means more than just preparing for the wedding - it's preparing for a whole life to be lived together under the authority of God.